The Tao of Leadership : Beyond Techniques

An experienced traveller does not need a packaged tour to go places safely.
A good political speech does not need to make promises or antagonize the crowd.
A good mathematician does not need a computer to solve every problem.
A secure home does not have bolts and bars and locks and alarms everywhere, yet a burglar cannot get inside.

The wise leader's ability does not rest on techniques or gimmicks or set exercises. The method of awareness-of-process applies to all people and all situations.
The leader's personal state of consciousness creates a climate of openness. Centre and ground give the leader stability, flexibility, and endurance.
Because The leader sees clearly, the leader can shed light on others.

The group members need the leader for guidance and facilitation. The leader needs people to work with, to serve. If both do not recognize the mutual need to love and respect one another, each misses the point.
They miss the creativity of the student - teacher polarity. They do not see how things happen.

The Tao of Leadership - by Lao Tsu

Listen to the silence

People have many things to say, to comment, to communicate, to shout sometimes.

Talking about important things can be an incredibly powerful therapy to articulate them, verbalize them, understand them or see them differently, to handle them... It may help you to know yourself, to grow, to learn.

Sometimes I meet people whose rhythm and cadence of speech are so speeded up that you feel taken adrift by their verbal flow... like dizzy or drunk ...

You find it difficult to perceive their discourse as a means to understand, advance or learn...

Rather the opposite ...

People who talk a lot, with a sustained and intoxicating pace, are not learning nor discovering new horizons about themselves ...

Their words, their stories have become their prison. The stories they are telling lock them inside their own beliefs, in their interpretations. They become like victims trapped in a dead end...

Their words are like a call for help, a cry of helplessness in front of a situation they cannot assume or respond to.

And it seems that as long as they will remain in their repetitive stories nothing can or will change...

You are not your stories. Your stories are not you. They do not define you as a person.

I see you as a creative, powerful, complete person.

The silence has more to tell you than these stories, these self-justifications.

Do not judge yourself. Do not justify yourself.
Forgive yourself. Have faith in you.

Listen to the silence.

What powers do you leave in the hands of others?

In personal and professional life, there are some people who allow to be defined by others. By their parents, siblings, family, colleagues, bosses, friends ...

Others will say whether you are worth, how you are worth, how much you are worth, what you have to think, what you are good at, the skills and potential you have ... and will say what you are terrible at, what are your weaknesses, your deficiencies, your limitations ...

And you will believe them....

On the other hand, other people will always question or doubt anything that comes from the outside.

And they are right. Judgements and opinions of others often say more about them than about you. In this they generally tend to be useless, of no interest to you.

What is important to you is what you do or do not do. What are your actions, your results and the experience you are having. What are your values, your dreams, your energy and balance. What matters is who you are as a person, who you are being, who you want to be ... and what you do now to already be there.

What do you want for yourself?

Do you accept that others lead or control your life?

Or you create your own opinion and define what you want and do not want in your life ...

On which side are you?