Friday 2 November 2012
Is it important for you to be right?
Sometimes, at personal or professional level, we get involved in endless discussions where each one just wants one thing: be right!
These situations may have no limits as everyone sticks to his/her own vision, perception and opinion of the subject... and just doesn't listen.
Gradually the volume levels rise, there is anger, tension, stress ...
The interlocutors enter in fight mode ... they speed up, get nervous, defensive, aggressive, tense ...
It becomes vital that everybody recognize THEY are right.
What battle is this? A fight for what?
A battle to continue to exist?
A struggle to validate their beliefs? Their opinions?
During our life and experiences we gradually learn that these fights are futile. They are things you need to let go.
Wanting to absolutely be right is having a stuck, stiff, smug posture. A victim stance.
The dream of a victim is to convince of their opinion, is to sell their justifications. Their justifications to stay as they are...If others don't buy these nor agree with them, it can only be because they don't understand anything...
On the contrary, when you're responsible, when you're in charge, being right is secondary. The important thing is to get results, to learn, be flexible, be open and get closer to your goal ... Accepting that it's not important just being right.
Actually... isn't it when you finally understand you were wrong that you grow the most as a person?
Do you think I'm right? What do you think?