Some years ago I was coaching the CEO of an important business bank. He told me an anecdote that really struck me.
Friday, 16 July 2021
Tuesday, 27 April 2021
A collaborator comes to the leader and says:
Truth, Goodness, Utility, … Empathy.
Wednesday, 25 November 2020
Can you mediate emotional issues without taking sides or picking favourites?
Can you breathe freely and remain relaxed even in the presence of passionate fears and desires?
Are your own conflicts clarified? Is your own house clean?
Can you be gentle with all factions and lead the group without dominating?
Can you remain open and receptive, no matter what issues arise?
Can you know what is emerging, yet keep your peace while others discover for themselves?
Learn to lead in a nourishing manner.
Learn to lead without being possessive.
Learn to be helpful without taking the credit.
Learn to lead without coercion.
You can do this if you remain unbiased, clear, and down-to-earth.
Tao of Leadership - Lao Tsu
Tuesday, 14 July 2020
Monday, 20 April 2020
Monday, 23 March 2020
There is a quote that says that life brings us the experiences that we need for us to grow. That there are no coincidences, nothing occurs by chance.
In some ways this crisis we are going through is no coincidence.
The past financial crisis had taught us to fight more to survive, be active, persevere, be resilient in always reinventing yourself to survive economically and socially.
This one is about stopping. Stopping and being able to slow down, breathe, reinvent the way we relate to others and go on with our work, with our careers.
There is a message for this world, for institutions and companies. There is a message for us.
To go back to essentials, to yourself, your life, your priorities, your real ambitions and desires.
These times allow us to rediscover who we are and what surrarrounds us, to become aware of our ability to adapt, to learn and to change our daily routines. This a time to become more curious about new things, to learn and test new things, new habits.
It is a luxury to be able to go on at your own rythm, your own pace. Have you managed to slow down?
What are these moments showing you? What are they reveiling about yourself?
Wednesday, 26 February 2020
We're addicted to winning.
And when something is resisting us, when we make mistakes and/or fail, it fills us with sadness, discouragement, anger... We lose our confidence in ourselves, our self-esteem. We suffer from it...
What is winning?
It is about feeding our competitiveness, our ego, it is about competing... If we win, it means others lose... others who have not been as "good" as us...
What is winning?
It is about feeding our ego. It's creating this illusion of being a superhero, of being a superman or a superwoman...
Winning and being successful are the illusion of having arrived, of having succeeded... and now what? Has time stopped? That's it, we've done it, we are done... Are you sure? What have we achieved? Does it make sense?
For me, our frustration, our continuous sabotage comes from these ideas, from these expectations ...of winning, of triumphing...
We cling to these goals, to these clichés, to these chimeras in desperation, without connecting to what we really want deep down. .. we delude ourselves into possessing, into having ... instead of being ...
Far from the stereotypes, deep inside you ... what is / what would it be for you to win? ... what would it look like to win?...
And if happiness was not in either of these... neither in winning nor in triumphing...
And if it was in letting go, letting go of these chimeras and ridiculous but crushing expectations and focus on your own, on what's really important to you...
...Maybe this would be triumphant... Don't you think?
What's important to you? What is it for you to succeed?
Tuesday, 26 November 2019
Context & Connection.
Friday, 8 November 2019
Are conflicts useful?
Do conflicts in a company emphasize its dynamism or its disorganization ?
Should managers accept or ban conflicts?
Behind conflict there are unidentified, unaddressed needs... there are perspectives and views that have not yet been taken into account.
Beyond conflict there possibly are new ideas for improvement, new business opportunities or areas for the organization's development.
Conflict is a proof that there is motivation, commitment, dynamism.
The problem is that conflictive situations appeal to emotions . They are uncomfortable. They create tension. They are therefore difficult to handle.
They push people into uncertainty, into danger. They generate adrenaline, create urgency, connect us with our most animal side, with stress, possibly pushing us towards paralysis, aggression or flight.
They bring out our emotions, our vulnerability, our fragility.
At the same time a conflict is the evidence that this is important, that this is serious. That this is worth fighting for.
A company without conflict is a dormant, somnolent, numb company.
Are there conflicts in your business?
Do you handle them? Do you avoid them?
How do you feel about them?
Take advantage of conflicts. Learn to manage them and you'll get extraordinary results.
Friday, 13 September 2019
Wednesday, 12 June 2019
Society brings us to judging everything. Every detail, every posture, appearances, expressions can be interpreted and used in favour or against.
The criteria are infinite. Appearance, fashion, external signs of wealth, everything is perceived, observed, dissected, used...
Used to go down the fast lane towards express and limiting judgments that enclose, that limit communication and relationships to pre-established frameworks.
We catalogue people... do not try to know more... We are no longer curious or really open for more.
We judge with few elements and no longer have neither openness nor curiosity for more.
This mechanism is human. We cannot avoid interpreting, thinking, simplifying, making an opinion... But let us avoid judging.
Yes. let's have an opinion. We need and have the right to have and give our opinion... but let's not judge, let's not close ourselves up, let's not emprison ourselves.
Give your opinion and be open to others. Open yourself to what you don't know, to what you don't know you don't know...
Judging speaks of you, not of the other.
To judge can be to despise, to put oneself on top of the other. It is assuming that you have the truth...the only truth.
It's closing yourself off from other ways of thinking, of living, of understanding. It is about denying diversity, differences....
Only differences enrich, not similarities...
To judge members of your team is to see them with their shortcomings, not with their wealth. It's taking away their potential.
To express an opinion is to express yourself, to be assertive, courageous, open to debate, it is to build in order to achieve results.
Speaking out your opinion is sharing in order to understand, give feedback, challenge, accompany and help your team to reach their potential.
Speak up and don't judge. Accept, enrich yourself with diversity.
What do you think?
Are you making an opinion or a judgment?
Friday, 10 May 2019
Thursday, 14 February 2019
Share and work closely
Monday, 28 January 2019
He who knows others is wise,
He who knows himself is enlightened,
He who defeats others is strong,
He who defeats himself is powerful,
He who knows joy is rich,
He who preserves his way is determined.
Be humble, and you will remain entire,
Bend over, and you'll stand up straight,
Empty yourself, and you'll stay filled up,
Wear yourself out, and you'll stay new.
The wise do not exhibit themselves, and so they shine,
They do not make themselves noticeable, and that is why they are noticed,
They are not praised, and that's why they have merit,
And because they' re not competing, no one in the world
can compete with them.
Monday, 31 December 2018
Wednesday, 28 November 2018
Wednesday, 26 September 2018
- · The flashy leader lacks stability
- · Trying to rush things gets you nowhere
- · Trying to appear brilliant is not enlightened
- · Insecure leaders try to promote themselves
- · Impotent leaders capitalize on their position
- · It is not easy to point how holy you are.