How do you treat yourself?

Are you managing your energy, your schedule, your desires, your goals in a flexible and reasonable way, always looking for your wellness and balance?
or
Do you strive to get what you decided to get, do you put pressure on yourself to move, study, work, finish your tasks and get the results that you decided?

How do you perceive your life?

Is it a subtle balance of work, performance, and good times to have fun and enjoy?
or
Is it like a long distance race where there is little time and much to do?

Are you self-demanding?
How do you perceive yourself?
How do you judge yourself?
Can you forgive yourself?

How do you manage your balance?
Do you take care of yourself?

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Leadership and Selflessness

True self-interest teaches selflessness.

Heaven and earth endure because they are not simply selfish but exist in behalf of all creation.

The wise leader, knowing this, keeps egocentricity in check and by doing so becomes even
more effective.

Enlightened leadership is service, not selfishness. 

The leader grows more and lasts longer by placing the well-being of all above the well-being of self alone.

Paradox: 
By being selfless, the leader enhances self.

The Tao of Leadership
Lao Tsu / John Heider

Addicted to winning

We are addicted to winning.

When something is resisting, when we make mistakes or fail, we are filled with sadness, discouragement, anger ... We lose our self confidence, our self-esteem. We suffer from it...

What is winning? It is about nourishing our competitiveness, our ego, it is about competing ... If we win, others lose ... others who are not as "good" as we are....
What is success? It feeds our ego. It enhances this illusion of being a star, a superhero, a superman or superwoman ...

Winning and success are the illusion of having arrived, of having achieved it... And now what? Has the time stopped? That's it, I succeeded... Are you sure? What have you achieved? Does it make sense?

For me, our frustration, our endless sabotage comes from these ideas, these expectations ... winning, success ... We tend to desperately hold on to these goals, these clichés, these chimeras without connecting with what we really want deep inside... we are fooling ourselves in owning, having ... rather than being...

Far from the stereotypes, deep inside yourself ... what is / what would it be for you to win? ... What would success look like? ...

And what if happiness was not in neither ... not in winning nor in succeeding ...
If you were to let go, to let go of these chimeras, of these overwhelming ideas and focus on your true expectations, on what is really important for you ... Perhaps that would be look more like success ... don't you think?

What is important to you? What is success for you?

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What is your team’s mindset ?

The relationship between employees and management is a key factor in the ability to motivate, mobilize and provide performance and commitment to the company.

What are the employees’ expectations ?
What was promised to them?
On what basis was the collaboration with business established? ...and does it still exist today?

In an effort to motivate their team and meet their demands, managers tend to make commitments or suggest opportunities that are unrealistic.

As circumstances do not always allow to fulfill these commitments, the collaborator can develop a sense of not being listened to, not being appropriately valued or recognised .... especially if a clear and honest conversation is not held to address these unrealized opportunities .

Managers often live in the short term, in search for solutions to today's challenges ... they forget the possible “debt” created in their relationship with the employee ... and this conversation rarely occurs ...

Then the relationships between the collaborators and their management become distant... The collaborators may feel their management is being dishonest and manipulative when the truth is they just lack the rigor, the attention and the courage to address these important issues.

One enters a company for its image and brand.
And resigns because of its managers or executives..

How do you manage your collaborators’ expectations?
Are you listening to them?
What is your relationship with them?

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Abundance or Scarcity?

Are you living in abundance or in scarcity?
What fills your life? 
What do you feel is missing?

The way we live our life depends on how we perceive it.

Are we happy with what we have? Or do we want more?

How do you live? Do you enjoy the moment? Or are you always expecting something, a vacation, an entry of money, a new car, something to happen...?

The perceptions of abundance or scarcity are first created in our minds. They are not related to the money we have or what we possess ...

Being envious of your neighbour who has more or terrified to lose what you have will never bring you serenity or happiness.
Happiness is about being satisfied and grateful for what you have.
It is about living according to your principles and values​​, about deciding where you want to go, fighting for what you want and put aside what we do not want...

Scarcity is about being competitive, directive and unsatisfied. It's being perfectionist and demanding.
Abundance is being generous and trusting with oneself, with others, with life.

I do not believe in sacrifice, in pressure, in forcing for things to happen.
I believe in generosity and trust, in the team, in surpassing oneself and persevering to achieve results.

Where are you? Are you living closer to abundance or to scarcity?

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Who are you being right now?

What makes your moods , what does occupy your thoughts, what worries your nights ?

Who are you being in your job, your company , in your professional relationships?

Before uttering a single word , what does emanate from you, from your person, your posture, your gestures ?

We are who we are...in a safe, undeniable, concrete, powerful way...

But who are you being right now...who are you being while reading these words?

What are your beliefs? Your certainties ?

What are your questions? Your challenges?

What you are focusing on...concentrating on ?

What have you abandoned...what have you left out?

How are you communicating? Who are you to your environment ?

Do you feel free and present ?

Or do you feel pressured and prisoner?

Become aware of where you are and where you want to be.

If you like what you see , you are on the right path...

If you do not like what you see, identify what is missing and fight for it ...

Are you at the service of who you want to be tomorrow ?

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Want to change others?

When we are young, we think that everything is possible, you can change the world, you can change others.

We put a lot of energy into it. We develop many strategies for this. We strive and make it one of our important battles.

Until we realize that no, it is not worth it. Not possible. You cannot change others. It is presumptuous and arrogant to think we can...

While we do not understand this, we lose our time trying to change others, we have a bad time not accepting what there is... We focus on aspects that do not depend on us .... We feel frustrated, discontent, dissatisfied , sad ... We struggle ...We feel nor satisfied nor free ...

The day we know we are the ones who have to change, that we have to drop these ridiculous demands, this misplaced perfectionism ... then we begin to accept what surrounds us, as it is .... and to accept others as they are ...

Then we can create change ... not to others ... but in ourselves, in our way of being, of relating to the world. We change the way we act and interact, that way that was perhaps our real source of frustration in the past...

We change our role and the world changes ... The others change ....

They are the same people but we no longer offer them the same selves, the same games, the same interactions, the same scenarios ... We do not act the same, we are not the same ...

We create new contexts that do not allow what he had before. They create something different.

We made it. We changed the world. We have changed our position, we have changed and doing so we have changed the others.

NOTHING CHANGES. I CHANGE AND EVERYTHING CHANGES.

Have you experienced such a change?

Everything has changed for you too?

BE NOW THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD

What do you think?

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Conflict and Negotiation: Are you part of the problem?

Effective negotiations occur when both parties are able to look at the problem from all possible angles to be open, flexible and creative when building a
solution.

Sometimes the problem is so important, what is at stake is so great that without noticing it people slowly become part of the problem.

When you are the problem, how you want to step back, not get caught , vary perspectives to propose options .... No way!

You are stuck on the issue ... you feel bad ... you take it personally ... you do not flow .

What is the problem? What do you want? What are you looking for?

Are you willing to be flexible , to listen, interact , build a solution with the other?

Or are you tense , rigid , pissed off, overwhelmed, angry...

Are you able to look at the issue with all its components,  all its potential benefits , all its possible limitations?

Breathe.

Put aside the labels, the prejudices.

Work on your flexibility, on your curiosity with the other.

Open yourself , go beyond appearances , be curious, listen ...

Free yourself , be creative, agile.

To do so do not block yourself emotionally.

Manage yourself, lead yourself, lead the negotiation , drive the conversation , manage the relationship with intuition and expertise .... The results depend on it.

Are you part of the problem or are you ready to co - construct a solution?

Do you want Human Resources or resourceful Humans?

Who is accountable for delivering results?

Is it the owner, the CEO, the Board, the middle managers, the employees ...?

How to influence without overwhelming, to lead without pressing, to direct without controlling?

The influence and efficiency of managers go beyond their ability to articulate and communicate what they want .... They are in their ability to be open to the others, leave them space, collaborate with them .... So they understand, express, digest what's going on... so they commit and define how they will respond with their own resources ....

At any moment managers can fall into the trap of imposing, of forcing, of pushing.

A tactic that works in the short term ... especially if the company is used to managing by fear ...

But a short-term tactic that will not trigger the people’s and teams’ essential resources ...

It will not mobilize these abilities enhanced by true commitment and passion… Abilities like creativity, flexibility, agility, transversality, transparency... Skills that respond to new situations, new challenges, new competition...

We don’t need Human Resources .. but humans with resources, people who are leaders in their personal and professional lives ... doers in the business ... business entrepreneurs.

What do you want in your team? Human Resources or resourceful Humans?

How do you manage teams?

Leadership is Doing less and Being more

Run an honest, open group.

Your job is to facilitate and illuminate what is happening. Interfere as little as possible. Interference, however brilliant, creates a dependency on the leader.

The fewer rules the better. Rules reduce freedom and responsibility. Enforcement of rules is coercive and manipulative, which diminishes spontaneity and absorbs group energy.

The more coercive you are, the more resistant the group will become. Your manipulations will only breed evasions. Every law creates an outlaw. There is no way to run a group.

The wise leader establishes a clear and wholesome climate in the group room. In the light of awareness, the group naturally acts in a wholesome manner.

When the leader practices silence, the group remains focused. When the leader does not impose rules, the group discovers its own goodness. When the leader acts unselfishly, the group simply does what is to be done.

Good leadership consists of doing less and being more.

The Tao of Leadership - Lao Tzu

The Three Key Levels of Change Management

Change is always present in our lives.

Every day is new, fresh, uncertain, infinite in its possibilities.

In business, change is complicated to manage. While each day has its problems and challenges, the relationships, teams, people and processes tend to become rigid, inflexible.

Organizations tend to focus on certain aspects of the business, on certain subjects or perspectives. It make them shortsighted, prevents them from seeing everything there is in the environment ...
The limited perception of reality and the daily routines do not always generate the awareness and sense of urgency necessary for change to happen...

Leading change is the ability to focus and be committed on the company's vision and business in a global cross-functional way.
It is the ability to ask questions, takes decisions, communicate, implement, review and adjust with agility and perseverance.

Change happens at Three Levels
- The Individual level, the person, posture, perceptions, roles
- The Relationships level, the dynamics, fluidity and openness in one to one relations
- The Teams level, the relational systems, organization, culture, the formal and informal roles and responsibilities.

Change needs the commitment of every person and of the organization.
It feels uncomfortable, uncertain, insecure.
But when the uncertainty and insecurity that are generated are shared in an environment of support, trust, commitment and initiative, Change can only be a success for the company.

How do you handle change in your company?

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How to give an open, honest and productive feedback ?

Authoritarian management styles reduce the teams' levels of motivation and flexibility.

When a management team rigidly gives orders, the ability of the organization to adapt and provide an exclusive level of service becomes more limited.

For that reason, developing emotional intelligence , connecting and building rapport with collaborators and teams enhance optimism, confidence, empowerment, motivation.

A more connected management style nevertheless entails certain risks. The proximity, the affective and emotional connection with the teams can create an unwanted and unproductive consequence: the inability to give feedback openly, clearly and efficiently.
 As if the manager, when developing a more intimate and harmonious relationship with collaborators, would start fearing this confrontation and would feel uncomfortable to challenge them on their results or development.

 The connection , syntony, proximity of managers with their teams need to be genuine, honest . It is the only way for them not to be manipulative.

 This connection should enable managers to dare to share their expectations , opinions , feedbacks , testimonials openly... honestly but flexibly ...

 For managers, the challenge lies in always being aware of who they are as individuals, in giving feedback with humility and detachment, so as to share and build solutions from listening, sharing, exchanging, negotiating ...

 Build rapport, not paralysis.

 Are you capable of honesty and openness in your feedbacks ?

Is it time for change?

It is difficult to know when it's time to change ... Time to change strategies, tactics, attitude, posture.

It takes some time to realize that this is not working, we're not on the proper path, on the appropriate way ...

When we are accustomed to responding to challenges in a certain way, it is difficult to stop and convince yourself that it is not appropriate.

Many beliefs pollute the business world.

Personal, collective beliefs, based on past experiences, on routines, built from appearances ...

When something is not working with the desired results, do not obstinately give more of the same …

Maybe it's time to stop, to step back. change perspective, change strategy ...

Maybe you have to stop forcing destiny. sacrificing with antiquated tactics, with activities from the past .

Maybe you need to let go, to let the pressure down, to give yourself a chance to see the situation from a different perspective, from another angle ...

Time for less of the same, for something different ...

Where do you think you should stop forcing, stop putting force or pressure?

What other perspective would you like to try?

What will you let go? Where will you innovate?

Conflicts : Should we accept them or ban them ?

How useful are conflicts ?

Do conflicts in a company emphasize its dynamism or its disorganization ?

Should managers accept or ban conflicts?

Behind conflict there are unidentified, unaddessed needs... there are perspectives and views that yet have not been taken into account.

Beyond conflict there possibly are new ideas for improvement, new business opportunities or areas for the organization's development .

Conflict is a proof that there is motivation, commitment, dynamism.

The problem is that conflict situations appeal to emotions . They are uncomfortable. They create tension. They are therefore difficult to handle.

They push people into uncertainty, into danger. They generate adrenaline, create urgency, connect us with our most animal side, possibly pushing us towards passivity, aggression or flight.

They bring out our emotions, our vulnerability, our fragility. 

At the same time a conflict is a evidence that this is important, that this is serious. That this is worth fighting for. 

A company without conflict is a dormant, somnolent, numb company.

Are there conflicts in your business?

Do you handle them? Do you avoid them?
How do you feel about them?

Take advantage of conflicts. Learn to manage them and you'll get extraordinary results.

The Power of Authenticity : Have the courage to be Authentic!

Do you manage the process?

The responsibility of the manager is not on content, it is on process .

Managers often have a wrong approach.

They focus on business, on results, and only see the teams as resources to reach goals and objectives.

They lose sight of something important : the team.

The objective of the manager is clearly developping the business. To do so they must focus on creating the conditions for the teams to communicate , work , learn, and improve in order to deliver results to the business.

Their role is to coordinate the team, to be aware of what is happening, to " dance " with them and make sure they are focused, aligned and mobilized .

Managing is an art. It is a wise balance between context and results, data and systems, process and content.
The manager is a chief conductor of the key issues are the business , strategy, operations and staff.

A leader / manager monitors two items:
- The Business: the market, the customers, the company , its products , services, the results ...
- The Teams : employees and managers, communication styles and work performance, culture, system and systems that govern its operation.

How do you manage the process?

What kind of manager are you?

What Equilibrium do you want for yourself ?

When last did you take the time to really be with an important person in your life?
Since when have you not been with a loved one, a partner, a spouse, a son, a daughter, your mother, your father .. in a magical moment of peace , connection , love ?
Maybe you live at a fast pace in which you are always running , rushing from one thing to another , with a pace in which you stay on the surface of things...

 Or perhaps it is the other way around...

 When was the last time you were speeded up, full of energy, enthusiastic, with plenty of ongoing projects and things to do ... ?
For how long have you been living in your head , thinking , imagining without getting into action ?
Maybe you live in a slowed down pace, in a routine , and you struggle to get into action, to get started, you live too much in your head, in your thoughts, in your sabotage ...

Where do see yourself most recently?
Where would you rather be?

How to get both ?
How to live a balance, inspired by your projects,  in action , trying , failing and getting on with it, consistently...
But taking moments when you get to stop, totally stop, and recover , nurture yourself , be with people , with your family , intimately, and take the time to enjoy your life.

What are you missing to achieve this balance ?
What do you want for yourself in 2014 ?

How to reconcile personal and professional dimensions?

There are many publications on areas for individual growth like personal development, leadership, personal branding...

Can these areas be compatible with having an stable position / a permanent role in a company?
Can one develop these personal aspects while having specific roles and responsibilities in a company?

Companies do their best at listening, caring, respecting and managing their collaborators. The way they do it does not always bring coherence between the personal and professional dimensions of a person.
Management in companies tends to speak, interact and motivate people just talking to their professional profile...
Is it enough ?

People are evolving and changing beings, their motivations vary with the contexts in which they evolve, the challenges they face, the overall environment that surrounds them...
Nothing is black nor white. Everyone has their ideas, beliefs and personality.
The mission of the company, of the manager, of the HR is to be able to create relationships that flow and contexts that perform. So that ... motivation, commitment and partnership between the company and the person can be win-win, open, flexible, results-oriented... So that it can contribute to both parties ....

This collaborator in front of you ... Have you ever connected with him/her... beyond their professional aspects ...?

Leave space for your collaborators, be curious beyond their current role or career and make an alliance with the whole person, not only with their professional and formatted avatar.

What do you think ?

Is pressure useful ?

 As a Manager or an Executive , do you put pressure on your collaborators ?
Is pressure useful ?

 The pressure that we can feel to achieve things, take challenges we have set to ourselves, win competitions, contests, races , learn, improve ... nourishes us physically and mentally, generates adrenaline. gives us energy .
 This pressure is about doing things that make sense to us, that we care about, that make scare us... This pressure allows us to be present , focused, connected , alive, to surpass ourselves, to go for it, go further. This pressure is healthy ...
 A sound pressure generated by our motivation, our ambition , our passion.
 This pressure is more than positive. It is constructive. It's refreshing. It is vital.

 But what happens if the pressure comes from outside, is "poured" on us?

 What if the pressure that is put on us has unrealistic , confusing goals? What if the environment is highly political , superficial? What if the management putting that pressure lacks confidence, is unable to trust or is manipulative...?
This other pressure is more negative .
Will it make us act? Yes, by coercion, by obligation, through fear.
In this case one has to live with this unhealthy pressure, suffer from it, be a victim of it ... It creates insecurity , anxiety.
It can be twisted , petty, can be malignant , paralysing ...

What do you think ?
Should managers put pressure?
If they do , how should they do it ?

How do you empower?

You are willing to fight for the company. You have always been. And you do fight...

But what about your team? Are they fighting at your side ?
Or you have the feeling that the pressure is mostly on you...

How do you empower people ?
How to get your collaborators to have an entrepreneurial spirit ?

Managing teams is a very subtle and balanced mix of inspiration, confidence , challenge, risk taking, rhythm, fluidity, intimacy, accountability, leadership...

If managers impose their vision and solutions too much on to their teams, it's difficult for them to:
- Fully understand everything that is going on,
- Get feedback, new ideas and innovations,
- Engage people

Team leaders have to accept everything that is going on in the team, everything present ... positive and constructive ... or negative and confrontational ....
Accept it and welcome it as possibly exceptional opportunities for learning, growth and performance...

Accepting uncertainty and risk taking will give them a new potential as leaders...
They will act more as a conductor putting in action everyone's talents rather than a hierarchical boss optimizing resources...

To do so, leaders need to inspire and trust rather than control. They must free rather than imprison.

Leaders need to be with the team, present, accessible, open and flexible, creating intimacy . They must connect with the teams with all their humanity and accept their own vulnerability as they accept their team members'...

What do you think ?
Are you willing to go for it? 
What do you need to do so?